You’ve said yes.
The champagne has been poured.
There’s a ring on your finger and excitement in the air.
And then comes the inevitable question: “Right… what do we do now?”
Planning a wedding can feel like stepping into a world with its own rules and secret language. But fear not — with a steady hand and a little guidance, the first steps can be simple, elegant, and even enjoyable.
How long before the wedding should you start planning?
In short: the earlier, the better. Most couples in the UK begin planning 12–18 months ahead, particularly if they’re eyeing a popular venue or supplier.
That said, there’s no rule that says it must take that long. Some weddings are planned in six months or less with no less beauty or success — but if time is on your side, use it.
Time brings choice, not pressure.
One of the biggest deciding factors will of course be the availability of a venue.
What should I start with first?
Begin not with booking, but with vision.
What sort of wedding do you want? Big or small? Formal or relaxed? Grand or intimate? Indoors or out? The answers to these questions will shape every decision to come.
From there, focus on the three foundational pieces:
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Budget – What can you comfortably spend? Build in a little wiggle room.
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Guest list – Draft a rough list to help with venue size and catering.
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Date (or season) – You don’t need to settle on a specific date yet, but having a preferred month or season helps with venue availability.
Once those are clear, your very next step is usually to book your venue. This anchors your date and allows all other suppliers to fall into place.
What order should I plan my wedding in?
Here’s a refined and realistic order, suited to UK weddings:
- Budget & vision
- Guest list
- Venue & date
- Key suppliers — photographer, catering, music, planner/host
- Ceremony details — legal paperwork, officiant
- Dress & attire (often booked early due to lead times)
- Invitations — usually sent 4–6 months ahead
- Decor, flowers, styling details
- Final timeline & on-the-day logistics
And throughout it all: pause, reflect, and talk to one another. The best weddings aren’t just well planned — they feel personal, considered, and calm.
If you begin with clarity, and move with purpose, the planning becomes far less overwhelming — and far more magical.
Check out my free video series on How To Plan Your Own Wedding for a lot more hints and tips, along with a whole load of resources to help you plan your day.
As ever, it’s not about doing everything — it’s about doing the right things at the right time.